Are you leveraging affirmations to increase your success?

April 2, 2010

What Are Affirmations?

Affirmations are considered “new age” terminology for the practice of positive thinking.  The principle is to surround yourself with positive statements and ideas about what you want in life, and you will be more likely to achieve your goals.  Affirmations are positive statements that reinforce and inspire you to reach your true life destination and personal fulfillment.

Affirmations can be used to help you achieve success in all areas of your life, everything from your professional life to your health, your love life and your financial situation. If properly written and you commit to your affirmations, they will help you reach your goals and find personal fulfillment.  

How Do Affirmations Work?

To be happy and fulfilled in life, we must believe in ourselves. For all of us, our beliefs are thoughts that have been programmed into us since childhood. Some of these beliefs will help you to achieve your goals, but some of the “pre-programming” we have had holds us back from allowing us to believe what we really want for ourselves is actually possible. At a subconscious level, we are continually affirming our thoughts and desires, but to wash away the negative programming that is holding us back, and to really believe in ourselves, we must verbalize our inspirations.

By verbalizing our positive thoughts, over and over again, you re continually chipping away at your negative self-conscience and re-programming your thoughts. Let’s take a goal such as weight loss as an example. If you have always struggles with weight loss, an example of an affirmation you may use would be:

“I am healthy and happy with my appearance”.

You will notice the first times you verbalize this affirmation, you may feel uncomfortable and have negative feelings arouse from within. You may even have a feeling of resistance before you say the statement. This is your subconscious showing its true feeling. You subconscious is not agreeing with your statement and is trying to tell you it is not possible.  Keep at it. Repeat your affirmation, day after day. You will eventually start to feel joy and a sense of well-being. This is when you know your affirmation is starting to work. You are essentially “brainwashing” away any negative thoughts you have about the goal you are trying to reach.

How Quickly Will My Affirmations Start To Work For Me?

There is no specific formula or timeline that will dictate how long it will take before your affirmations stat to have an impact on your life. It will depend greatly upon how much inner resistance you have to the affirmations you have written and how willing you are to make a change in your life. The question should not really be one of how long it will take, but rather how much do you want the change to happen.

 

How to Write Affirmations

There are no set rules on how to write affirmations, but there are some tips to help you write meaningful, effective affirmations:

Tips to making Affirmations Relevant and Useful

Write in the present tense
  • If you write about what you want in the future, you may end up waiting a long time for your affirmation to come true.
  • You cannot make affirmations for other people. You are doing this for you. Your affirmations should in fact sound self centered. Their purpose is to encourage you and attract what you want out of life.
  • Your affirmation should always be in a positive tone, and it should include a positive emotion such as: I am excited, I am passionate, I am slim, I am fit, I am healthy….
  • The more likely you are to remember your affirmation, the more likely you are to say it. If it is too wordy, you will have a hard time remembering it.
  • If what you have written makes you so uncomfortable that you feel you are lying to yourself, change the wording something you believe, such as:
    • I intend to….
    • I am willing to….
    • I choose to….
Make it about you
Include positive emotion
Keep it short and sweet
You must believe it

 


Examples of Affirmations

 

Health
  • I am healthy in mind, body and spirit.
  • Every day I am getting stronger and healthier.
  • My body is healed, restored and filled with energy.
  • I am living a long, happy, healthy life.
  • I am in control of my health and wellness.
  • I allow health and happiness to flow through my body.

 

Relationships
  • I attract only healthy relationships.
  • I am special and deserve love.
  • I am surrounded by love.
  • My heart is open to love.
  • I deserve love and pleasure.
  • I am ready for a loving, fulfilling, respectful relationship.

 

Career
  • I love my job and I am good at it.
  • Doors of opportunity and abundance are open to me now.
  • I am passionate about my career and it rewards me with abundance.
  • At this moment, I am attracting the perfect career into my life.
  • I have strong skills and employers want to hire me.
  • Opportunities come easily to me.

 

Self Confidence
  • I am beautiful and admired.
  • I love myself unconditionally.
  • I am wonderful and grateful to be me.
  • I love my  life.
  • I am unique and lucky to be me.
  • I can do anything I set my mind to.

 

Exercise
  • My fitness routine is enjoyable, energetic and effective.
  • When I am exercising, I feel healthier and healthier every minute.
  • My body responds to my fitness goals.
  • I feel rejuvenated and energized after exercising.
  • I feel healthier when I work out.
  • I am good to my body and my body is good to me.

 

Weight Loss
  • I enjoy eating  healthy.
  • I feel thin.
  • I am getting stronger, thinner and healthier every day.
  • I am the perfect weight for me.
  • I choose to make positive healthy choices for myself.
  • I love and appreciate my body.

 

Getting Results From Your Affirmations

There are several methods that can be used alone, or in combination. You will have to determine what method(s) are going to work for you. At minimum though, you need to verbalize your affirmations at least once a day in combination with at least one other method listed below.  

Here is a sample of various ways you can use your affirmations to help you get results.

Method 1 – Written Method
  • Write out your affirmations 15 times every morning and every night before you go to bed.
  • Say them out load to yourself in the mirror using you statements.
  • Say your affirmation out loud anytime you feel yourself engaging in a negative though or activity that contradicts your affirmation.
Method 2 – You In The Mirror
Method 3 – The Negative Roadblock

Example: If you are trying to quit smoking, and you feel yourself reaching for a cigarette, say your affirmation out loud “I am living a healthy lifestyle”.

Method 3 – Record Yourself
  • Make a recording of your affirmations that you can play over and over again in the car, or on your iPod.
  • Many people report that falling asleep listening to their affirmations has been very successful.
  • Sing your affirmations.
  • Write out each of your affirmations on individual 3 x 5 recipe cards (one per card). Create several cards for each affirmation. Post the cards in various places where you will see them on a daily basis. 
Method 4 – The Sing Method
Method 5 – Reminder Cards

Examples: Inside a desk drawer, on the bathroom mirror, on the fridge, on your dashboard etc.

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Setting goals and shaping your future…with Dr. Nathalie

January 3, 2010

“If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” Unknown

I often start my Wellness On The Go™ workshops with information about the importance of setting goals.  By a show of hands, I ask the audience to demonstrate how many of them have goals, and whether or not these goals have been documented. Throughout the course of my workshops I have come to recognize that very few individuals actually make up goals for themselves, which quite frankly shocks me. On average, two or three of these individuals will admit to having goals out of the fifty individuals in attendance, and typically only one of these people will actually have their goals written down.  I then ask the group what would happen if I got into my car after the presentation, not knowing my next destination. Where would I end up? Most people laugh and answer “nowhere!”—which is my point exactly. It seems like a silly question to ask, but if we don’t know where we want to go with our lives, where are we going to end up? We spend more time planning our vacations than we do planning our lives.  Why is that?  A goal is nothing but a dream with a deadline. Creating a road map is necessary if we are to become successful individuals.

Ask Yourself…

  • Have I established goals for the next year, 5 years, 20 years?
  • Am I truly living the life that I want to live?
  • Have I made myself accountable for what I want in life?
  • Will my failed goals lead to unwanted consequences?

 

Our goals drive us, they allow us to shape our future, and provide us with the ability to grow and excel in each of our endeavors. That being said, it is important to remember that in order to achieve our goals we must first document them.  When we do write down our goals something amazing happens; we become creators, creators of our own paths. Remember, what the mind can imagine, it can create: Anything is possible. HOW we are going to achieve our goals at the time of setting them may not be clear, but if reasons come first answers will come second. If you have a big enough WHY, the HOW will manifest itself—you will find a way to make things happen!

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein

 

 

Ask Yourself…

  • Do I have goals that have been left unaccomplished for an extended period of time?
  • Am I truly making strives towards accomplishing my goals, or am I hindering my own efforts either consciously or unconsciously?
  • Am I willing to look at things differently, so that things can change?
  • Am I open to new ideas or strategies that may positively assist me in the achievement of my goals? Where can I get ideas? Who could help?

 

Each year on the first of January, I take the time to reflect upon my goals from the previous year. I like to evaluate what I have accomplished, and review everything that has manifested throughout the year. It always makes me smile, how things have unfolded for the goals which had a strong  enough WHY even if I did not really know at the time how I would get them accomplished…amazing how that works! To continue, now that I have reviewed my previous year’s goals, I am ready to set new goals and design a roadmap for the next year’s journey. My successes motivate me to create new goals for the coming year and open up my mind to all the future possibilities.

My Goals, Categorized

 

 

  1. Personal development and relationships– What skills do I want to develop? What do I want to learn? What relationships do I want to create?
  2. Career– What do I want to accomplish? What kind of impact do I want to have?
  3. Fitness, nutrition and food for the soul– What level of physical fitness do I want to maintain or achieve? What can I do to improve my eating habits? What practices can I partake in that will cultivate my spirituality? 
  4. Material things and time savers– Have fun with this one – have I been dreaming about purchasing a new car or installing the latest home entertainment system? Or do I want to hire help for household duties, so that I can have more time with my family and friends? 
  5. Economic– What income level do I want to achieve? Are there investments that I would like to make within the next year?
  6. Legacy– What do I want to leave behind?  What do I want to be remembered for?

 

7 Steps Goal Setting Strategies

 

  1. Brainstorm each of the categories for 5 minutes, don’t think too hard and allow your thoughts to come naturally.
  2. Next, establish a timeline for each of your goals, whether it be a year, 5 years, 10 years or 20 years.
  3. Decide upon a few goals (three or four from each category) that you wish to focus the majority of your attention on.
  4. Now determine the WHY of each of your top three or four goals.
  5. Decide if the WHY of each of your top three or four goals is “strong” enough—does it empower you enough? If not, pick another goal from that category which does get you motivated and excited.
  6. After that, put your goals through the “SMART” system.

 

 S – Specific – Is your goal too vague? Specifics help us to focus our efforts and clearly define what we are going to do. Answered by what, why, and how.

M – Measurable – How will you know when you have succeeded? Establish concrete criteria for measuring progress toward the attainment of each goal you set. If you can’t measure it, you can’t manage it.

A – AttainableA goal needs to stretch you slightly so you feel you can do it and it will need a real commitment from you. 

R – Realistic – To be realistic, a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work. Your goal is probably realistic if you truly believe that it can be accomplished.   Set the bar high enough for a satisfying achievement!

T – Time-bound – Do you have a timeline? Putting an end point on your goal gives you a clear target to work towards.

  1. Finally, beside each goal – write one action step you can take this week to get you closer to your goal. (i.e.- If you want to start doing Yoga – Your action step would be to contact the Yoga school you wish to attend, and ask about their classes and schedule.)
  2. Make sure to place your goals in an area of your home, or office, which is frequently visited. The probability of accomplishing your goal(s) is increased when your ambitions are reviewed on a day to day basis.  (Stay tune for my article on vision boards and how you can create a powerful visual tool for your goals).

 

Finally, have fun with your goal setting – you can do this goal setting session with your partner/spouse or a close friend. Personally, I refer to my goal setting sessions as a shopping list, a shopping list to the universe!  Remember to THINK and PLAY BIG—the more successful and fulfilled you are, the more you will contribute to the people around you and ultimately, to the world. Furthermore, embrace the fact that what we can think about, we can create—leverage the power of your sub-concient to plant the “right” seeds in your brain and watch what can happen!

To living with passion, purpose and a plan!

Dr. Nathalie